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\n Seneca<\/em>
\n<\/strong> – I realized that your grief should not be intruded upon while it was fresh and agonizing, in case the consolations themselves should rouse and inflame it: for an illness too nothing is more harmful than premature treatment. So I was waiting until your grief of itself should lose its force and, being softened by time to endure remedies, it would allow itself to be touched and handled.<\/p>\n

[Now] I shall offer to the mind all its sorrows, all its mourning garments: this will not be a gentle prescription for healing, but cautery and the knife.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

<\/p>\n

Art by Charlotte Pardi from
\n Cry, Heart, But Never Break<\/em>
\n<\/a> by Glenn Ringtved, a remarkable Danish illustrated meditation on love and loss<\/p>\n

In consonance with his strategy for inoculating oneself against misfortune<\/a>, Seneca considers the benefits of such a raw confrontation of sorrow:<\/p>\n

Let those people go on weeping and wailing whose self-indulgent minds have been weakened by long prosperity, let them collapse at the threat of the most trivial injuries; but let those who have spent all their years suffering disasters endure the worst afflictions with a brave and resolute staunchness.
\nEverlasting misfortune does have one blessing, that it ends up by toughening those whom it constantly afflicts.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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