{"id":14991,"date":"2017-12-14T15:31:17","date_gmt":"2017-12-14T14:31:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bodymind.nl\/grafts"},"modified":"2017-12-14T15:31:17","modified_gmt":"2017-12-14T14:31:17","slug":"grafts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bodymind.nl\/en\/technology\/grafts","title":{"rendered":"GRAFTS"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>THE GRAFTS STORY<\/h3>\n<p>People living in irrelationship activate behavioral routines learned in childhood that relieved anxiety by making their parents feel better. We made the acronym GRAFTS as a simple tool to help organize our thinking: <strong>Good<\/strong>, <strong>Right<\/strong>, <strong>Absent<\/strong>,<strong> Funny<\/strong>, <strong>Tense<\/strong>and <strong>Smart<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<div class=\"popup-image alignleft\">\n<p><a class=\"image-link\" href=\"http:\/\/irrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/GRAFTS.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1841 size-large\" src=\"http:\/\/irrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/GRAFTS-1024x625.jpg\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" srcset=\"http:\/\/irrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/GRAFTS-1024x625.jpg 1024w, http:\/\/irrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/GRAFTS-300x183.jpg 300w, http:\/\/irrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/GRAFTS.jpg 1323w\" alt=\"GRAFTS\" width=\"1024\" height=\"625\"><\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"share-icons\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Through GRAFTS behaviors, the child diverts his caregiver (usually his mother) from a negative emotion she has which interferes with her ability to take care of the child, temporarily restoring her<br \/>\nability to provide. This happens over and over, laying the foundation for adult relationship patterning.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>People living in irrelationship activate behavioral routines learned in childhood that relieved anxiety by making their parents feel better. 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