{"id":15130,"date":"2021-08-29T12:25:16","date_gmt":"2021-08-29T10:25:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bodymind.nl\/safe-and-fake"},"modified":"2021-08-29T12:25:16","modified_gmt":"2021-08-29T10:25:16","slug":"safe-and-fake","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bodymind.nl\/en\/book\/safe-and-fake","title":{"rendered":"Safe and Fake"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #000080;\">For my BodyMind, there are two types of safety. Real security and false security. The difference is the time of measurement. If I measure outside myself then there is a kind of objective perception of safety. An open square on a sunny day seems safer than a dark alley late at night with two men coming at me screaming loudly with sticks. That&#8217;s about real security in dt moment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000080;\">And then there is the sham security and sham insecurity. Through my senses, information enters my brain. There, among other things, the amygdala goes to work with the info to determine whether something is safe or unsafe. That assessment also uses memories and previous responses that worked in similar situations. If that assessment gives a different outcome then something that seems safe can feel very unsafe and vice versa. Then that sunny, open square is a horror, because I have agoraphobia, for example.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000080;\">To balance my BodyMind, I once made adjustments to still feel safe in an unsafe situation. I just moved the goal posts a little further apart and now I do score.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000080;\">An example is when I was beaten by my father it was something that within the scope of love, connection and nurturing could not be grasped by my BodyMind. So I adjusted the scope and my system now classifies the action differently. By placing it under love, for example, or that it must be because of me. 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