Judgemental? Me? Never!
http://upliftconnect.com/the-problem-with-judgment/
http://upliftconnect.com/the-problem-with-judgment/
Although it is about Trump, the explanation is brilliant and an eye opener if you still believe in fairy tales.
Do you ever find yourself stuck in a story about your life? It can become a habitual place of mental noise that you feel is you. If we can make a shift in consciousness from our surface-level perspective to a deeper awareness, then we transcend the personal sense of identity.
http://www.ted.com/talks/emily_parsons_lord_art_made_of_the_air_we_breathe?utm_source=newsletter_daily&utm_campaign=daily&utm_medium=email&utm_content=image__2017-01-19
The overcompliant, obedient child has the pleasure of short-term safety; he is keeping the mother going by making demands that are well within what he takes to be the mother's range (he is not being a difficult child; he is keeping the mother happy, not straining her). The non-compliant child is free to find out what the mother's range might be, and, by the same token, what his own range might be.