Hope is stronger than fear
Above all, Bodymind offers perspective. No one is “broken,” irreparably damaged. At most, your security system will have to be readjusted. That takes love and attention and time. And an instantly experienced re-imagining of how safe once felt. And can still be felt.
Together, if you like, we’ll look at these psychodynamics and where it affects you. In preparation for the core of our BodyMindsession.
Trauma means ‘wound’
Small and large Trauma arises from an event that was so overwhelming that it felt like a threat. An event we could not give meaning to from our experience up to that point. While no relevant caregiver was available to lovingly protect and give us meaning. We were on our own. Powerless.
The BodyMind has only 1 function: survival, by any means necessary. Anything to reconnect with the human herd. Just to avoid experiencing the abandonment despair of trauma. Never again!
Help! Save me!
So we look in our surroundings to see what alternative connection options are available. How do I reconnect with relevant elders? What appropriate behavior will keep me from being alone again? We mainly look at our parents, our teachers, spiritual guides and their behavior. From the unconscious thought, “If I do x will you love me? Behold the birth of our conditioning. Everyone has to deal with it and everyone suffers from it later in life. Psychological and/or in physical form.
All conditioning has an end date. When is does not work anymore.
The way forward begins with understanding how this above works and then lovingly and mindfully feeling what wants to be felt. That everything is allowed to be there. This is not always easy or pleasant. Feeling old feelings in the present moment.
Tolle talks about the Power of Now. The parrots in Aldous Huxley’s book Island are even trained to call out “Here and Now” all day as a reminder.
Here and Now
Why is living in the Now so difficult or even incomprehensible? Mostly because various, sometimes accumulated, traumas just feel too painful. Therefore escape, dissociate, many people through social media, stories and gossip and all types of substance and behavioral addictions including brooding and compulsive thinking. Yes, thinking is also an addiction.
Most psychological disturbances are dissociative in nature. Away from the here and now. Because the experience in the Now is perceived by the body as unsafe. Therefore, the movement is away from feeling.
Recovery by consciously experiencing what wants to be felt