Healing only starts
when your body signals ‘safe’
Healing only starts
when your body signals ‘safe’
Life is too short to let trauma and stress affect your joy of life
The average adult human in the Netherlands lives to be 84 years old.
- How old are you now?
- On average, how many years do you have ahead of you?
- And how do you want to live those remaining years?
- Do you just want to let it happen or do you want to have an impact on your enjoying life?
Feeling safe on a cellular level
Experience what wants to be felt while being in safe contact with another human being is the shortest way to sustainable recovery.
- The ‘neurological’ body (BodyMind) remembers How ‘really safe’ feels.
- Body & mind connect through that voelen & denken in balans komen .
- Realizing that there is nothing wrong with you creates a perspective for lasting change.
Breath meditation 3.0
At its core, a BodyMind Session a guided breath-touch meditation. You breathe and I touch, as with a massage, for example. My touch is largely in the rhythm of your connected breathing. Breath is our primary means of communication. I monitor the space and guide you in your process. So teamwork.
Sessions are tailor-made
First we discuss your intention for the session. Where your focus lies.
This can vary from pure relaxation to processing trauma. And everything inbetween.
Then we combine conscious breathing with touch. Touch as in various forms of massage.
This together activates the self-healing ability of your body.
In a BodyMind session a different awareness that sometimes invites a conscious, healing journey into the subconscious.
Then we focus on anchoring the experience in your daily life
“The Mind cannot change the mind
Real change is not a mental process”
BodyMind Coach
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BodyMind for you too
Constantly pushes and pulls life, in private or at work. You may be working on your personal development at the same time. Or recovering from just too much of everything at once. And sometimes, sometimes there is still something from your past that wants to be processed.
If the choice is too much for you just book a BodyMind DeepRelax session.
Together, we then follow what presents itself when we meet.
From ‘Having to’ and ‘Wanting to to Being Safe
Safe
Body and Mind have only one purpose: Safety. Human bodies always move toward safety within the human herd. Without the herd, we die.
Human thinking is a fairly young evolutionary tool for when it is unsafe or life-threatening. Like a deer, we can flee and if that fails, fight like a tiger. Our thinking allows us to recall past experiences and better assess the future. Handy!
Tension arises when natural movement is not free to happen
You experience tension when it is safer to move left and the environment pushes you right. There is nothing wrong with a little excitement. As long as you can adjust and stay connected to the herd. That feels “safe” for our nervous system, for our BodyMind combination.
If you cannot adjust sufficiently, or the connection with the herd is at risk, then the tension remains, then it remains neurologically unsafe.
‘Thinking’ is different from ‘Awareness’
Body and Mind are working togehter as one BodyMind to find a route back to safety. If that fails then false security is also acceptable, as long as (temporary) peace is experienced in the system. This often unconscious adaptation begins in subtle and ingenious ways when you are very small. We call this adaptation “conditioning.
A lot of conditioning switches ‘feeling’ off (Body) and chooses the path of our ‘thinking’ (Mind). An artifice to relieve tension. By “framing” something just a little differently, the system experiences temporary relief of tension. Useful for a while but if it takes too long it will bother you. Sometimes such re-framing sets in automatic behavior and thinking. Then a reset is required.
‘Deferred feeling’ wants to be felt, through conscious contact with your body where feeling happens
Constantly pushes and pulls life, in private or at work. You may be working on your personal development at the same time. Or recovering from just too much of everything at once. And sometimes, sometimes there is still something from your past that wants to be processed, felt.
Recognizing and better monitoring your boundaries contributes to experiencing deep peace and security. To move from ‘Having to’ and ‘Wanting to’ to ‘BeingSafe‘ To live your life as it is meant to be lived.
Feeling empowered begins with coming home to a body that feels safe
Breath Touch Attention
“BodyMind is unique because of the combination of breath, touch
and unconditional attention.”
“BodyMind is unique because of the combination of breath, touch
and unconditional attention.”
‘At la minimum the best massage in Amsterdam’
Sessions may run overtime at no cost to you. Please leave ample time after the session so you can integrate and land on planet earth.
Invest in your personal well-being
Don’t let cost be a consideration in your choice for a better life.
There is a special budget rate for people who do not have money for vacationing or leasure activities
Feel free to call me for consultation or if you’re in a tight spot.
Conscious breathing is living from the source
Breath is all-important in balancing Body and Mind. Your breath connects your body to your (sub)conscious, regulating the nervous system.
BREATHING IN PROMPTS ACTION!
Breathing in activates our nervous system to movefrom A to B.
- In response to danger to flee, fight or sit still.
- Or to find food and follow our curiosity and creativity.
BREATHE OUT … AND … RELAX
Breathing out relaxes us to stay in A. No need to move.
- To digest our food, exhalation activates our digestive system
- It stimulates our reproductive drive
- Activates cell repair and immunity
- Lowers muscle tension and heart rate
Your breathing has a lot of influence on your emotional experience. Each emotion is characterized by its own way of breathing.
Breathing out longer than breathing in has a strong calming effect.
Try it!
By actively working with the breath in a BodyMind session, we can deepen the body experience and experience emotions that otherwise remain under the surface.
Breathe in … Breathe out
Touch can be done in many ways
You decide
Depending on yourintention for the session and how you want to be dressed can vary touch. That touch will be largely in the rhythm of your breathing. That’s how we keep in touch.
In terms of touch, think about …
- Reiki
- Music & Singing Bowls
- Pressure Point massage
- Deep tissue massage
- Warm oil massage
- Thaise massage
- Thai yoga massage
- Chi Nei Tsang belly massage
- Warm herbal stamp massage
- Rebozo massage with cloths
- Tantsu contact massage from embrace
- Tantrische massage variations
- Restrictions
- 3-Minute Game
- Bossy Massage
Each touch is meant to awaken your body and reactivate its connection to your brain. Releasing memories. Reduce tension. There are many roads to Rome.
The determining factor is what you are used to, what you experience as comfortable and safe, and what your intention is for the session.
Sometimes the unconditional presence of another human being is enough and sometimes it is important to be touched or held to deepen the inner experience or to get to parts of yourself that were previously unreachable.
Warm Oil Massage
Pressure Point Massage
Reiki
Tanzu Massage
Once upon a time, there was …
… attention,unconditionally
… attention,unconditionally
Hope is stronger than fear
Above all, Bodymind offers perspective. No one is “broken,” irreparably damaged. At most, your security system will have to be readjusted. That takes love and attention and time. And an instantly experienced re-imagining of how safe once felt. And can still be felt.
Together, if you like, we’ll look at these psychodynamics and where it affects you. In preparation for the core of our BodyMindsession.
Trauma means ‘wound’
Small and large Trauma arises from an event that was so overwhelming that it felt like a threat. An event we could not give meaning to from our experience up to that point. While no relevant caregiver was available to lovingly protect and give us meaning. We were on our own. Powerless.
The BodyMind has only 1 function: survival, by any means necessary. Anything to reconnect with the human herd. Just to avoid experiencing the abandonment despair of trauma. Never again!
Help! Save me!
So we look in our surroundings to see what alternative connection options are available. How do I reconnect with relevant elders? What appropriate behavior will keep me from being alone again? We mainly look at our parents, our teachers, spiritual guides and their behavior. From the unconscious thought, “If I do x will you love me? Behold the birth of our conditioning. Everyone has to deal with it and everyone suffers from it later in life. Psychological and/or in physical form.
All conditioning has an end date. When is does not work anymore.
The way forward begins with understanding how this above works and then lovingly and mindfully feeling what wants to be felt. That everything is allowed to be there. This is not always easy or pleasant. Feeling old feelings in the present moment.
Tolle talks about the Power of Now. The parrots in Aldous Huxley’s book Island are even trained to call out “Here and Now” all day as a reminder.
Here and Now
Why is living in the Now so difficult or even incomprehensible? Mostly because various, sometimes accumulated, traumas just feel too painful. Therefore escape, dissociate, many people through social media, stories and gossip and all types of substance and behavioral addictions including brooding and compulsive thinking. Yes, thinking is also an addiction.
Most psychological disturbances are dissociative in nature. Away from the here and now. Because the experience in the Now is perceived by the body as unsafe. Therefore, the movement is away from feeling.
Recovery by consciously experiencing what wants to be felt
Holding Space
During a BodyMind session, I create and guard the space where your physical and emotional safety is paramount.
With full attention to your process here and now. Intuitively, I connect with what unfolds in the session.
Everything is welcome. That gives you the space to be who you are.
Unconditional
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Feeling versus thinking
We take your body as the entry point for change. Fully trusting the universal wisdom of your body.
Three pillars of recovery are
- Neurological safety
- Self-regulation
- Attention
From peace and deeply experienced safety, doors are opened that remain closed to most while talking and thinking.
Feel your power!
