Learn to turn different "states of mind" into "fun" and "enthusiasm" for life. Live from your body rather than from your mind. How nice is that!!! We do not go to the source of misery but directly to the goal, feeling good.
Most of us believe that we possess a self - an internal individual who resides inside our bodies, making decisions, authoring actions and possessing free will. Sorry guys!
We tuck our messy real selves behind polished veneers, orchestrate grand gestures, and perform various psychoemotional acrobatics driven by the illusion that love is something we must earn by what we do, rather than something that comes to us unbidden simply for who we are.
For each of us, there is a public persona encasing the private person, an aspirational self radiating from the real self.
Were we to meet this figure socially, as it were, this accusatory character, this internal critic, we would think there was something wrong with him. He would just be boring and cruel
