Let others take care of themselves. I empower others (and myself) by no longer taking responsibility for anyone else. That I assume the other person can go for themselves. Being able to take care of himself. Or can ask for help. Or can indicate a boundary. Take them seriously!!! See the other person for full. And myself at the same time. That is altruism and self-love at the same time. Not all that thinking and caring for others. Then life can happen, flow. My life. And that of others. Only then can I meet the other as the other.