My mother’s instincts are far from altruistic. She cares from species conservation. Just like animals taking care of their young. Only from the perspective of the helpless child is all that irrelevant. The little one’s nervous system perceives care and associates it with mother and later with concepts such as love. Intuitive care for offspring has no conceptual intention. Does not manipulate. There is no concept of motherly love, or how something should be done according to obtained knowledge. Intuitive care is connected in senses and healthy emotional responses to offspring and others. The care is total, focused on 1 thing, the child’s healthy independence, the continuation of the species. This is still the case with Bonobos, apes that are genetically closest to humans.
As a child, I experienced unconditional selflessness, food, warmth, shelter, support and protection, without having to do anything in return. If the child can remain in this sphere of apparent altruistic love for a long time, then I will be indoctrinated with altruistic love and behave accordingly.
ALif this selfless looking care is rudely disrupted then I will experience a wound in this. an abrupt end to a paradisiacal sense of selflessness. Suddenly (to survive) I will have to do something to secure my care. Behold the basis of manipulative patterns developed in childhood. And learned young is done old.
And because of the loss of our intuitive neutral world experience, caring for our offspring is corrupted, commanded with thinking, with concepts that do not do justice to caring as it took place in the now sense connected.
Love an itself has no opinion, no direction, no intention, no goal, no concept; love is an original intuition, as it expresses itself in the unfiltered emotion of“tenderness.
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I received my moral compass of caring and altruism through the intuitive kind-egoistic care I received from my parents.
