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A question is 1 form of initiation of discourse, conversation, communication. Each person is free to follow that impetus, e.g. question form, statement, command, or to choose their own impetus vq form.

A question does not have to be answered with an answer. An order may also follow. Each one decides […]

Sex is in many relationships primarily a distraction, a dissociation. Yes it is fun and feels great (so does ice cream and a good workout at the gym). Or sex may be a subconscious trauma reactive trade-off for continued attention and a thin sliver of healing intimacy. But being close […]

Every person has one main focus: themselves

So all events that she or he perceives are perceived in relation primarily to himself or herself.

While most of what happens in the world has zero to do with the one who perceives. Nada.

We prefer to pull everything towards us. Logical because that’s how […]

Listening Matters (by Kim Barthel)

Listening is much more than just processing sound and making sense of language! Sound waves energize many aspects of the whole brain. Approximately 60% of the brain’s arousal and alertness arises from the processing of sound. Why are movement and sound perceived by […]

From childhood sports competitions and spelling bees, to grade point averages and prom kings and queens, we learn early in life to view our social world in terms of who is better, smarter, or more favored than everyone else. Even as adults, we are quick to identify […]

Assimilation

1) Adjustment 2) Equalization 3) Equivalency 4) Equalization 5) Blending into a whole 6) Nutrient conversion 7) Inclusion 8) Nutrient absorption 9) Amalgamation

[Energie] the construction of organic molecules from smaller molecules (of inorganic substances or other organic substances)

[Planten] the construction of organic molecules from smaller […]

I live in a world of patterns. Patterns that my brain has created and through which I interpret the world. Patterns are recognizable and quickly accessible. That saves time when I want to assess safety plus my responses are predictable and quickly deployable with set patterns.

What I see are my […]

Perception is how I feel in response to what comes in through my senses. Perception is the filtered assessed pure neurological perception.

Fear of the unknown leads to high thinking intensity in me. This is self-protective behavior. There are more problems than there actually are because of the overlap on modalities […]

Talking and thinking (= inner talking) is alternative to moving. It is a conceptualization of the movement, of the emotion, the motion from energy that wants to be there to protect me.

trauma is an aloneness issue. It needs to be seen and heard to be healed.

In its own time. In its own place and space and pace. depending on the level of agency of the client. They need to be helped with attaining agency. That is prime to progress at the […]

I have an innate fear of being thrown out of the herd, of being ostracized. Yes the herd takes care of me but with conditions. there is no unconditional love. whereas I did experience it (with healthy attachment) that way when I was very small and my mother took care […]

Trauma occurs in the presence (or absence) of others. As such, it is a social wound. Who can heal in the presence of others. Trauma is like a bypass to keep me safe. That bypass also causes all sorts of diseases. Western medicine seeks the solution in the individual and […]

explanation of the work of ALBA how each emotion ‘lives’ somewhere else with its own breath, tension, direction, and focus