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The 4-7-8 sleep trick

• Assume a comfortable position.
• Place the tip of your tongue against the back of the upper teeth during the exercise
• Inhale for 4 seconds through the nose with the mouth closed
• Hold the breath for 7 seconds
• Exhale fully through the mouth with a sssshhh […]

I was born with 12 divine talents (Devine Bundle) that keep me safe. If I develop healthily then these divine talents remain intact. However, when I become damaged I my security then these divine talents can be hit and disabled or distorted.

Imagine … me as a two-year-old, in all my […]

In the herd

1. Asking for help
2. Freeze
3. Flight
4. Fight
5. Fawn – Tend and befriend (Stockholm)

Alone, separate from the herd

1. Detatch (into the mind)
2. Collapse (preserving energy when hopeless)
3. Shake (release)

No one who feels and experiences exactly what you feel yourself (Lotte)

You are an experience. The experience you experience as your life.

That is why you are on earth. To feel and experience. Can only you.

Life is an individual experience. Pretty lonely. Yes. Not necessarily negative if we realize its depth.

Hence, […]

Let others take care of themselves. I empower others (and myself) by no longer taking responsibility for anyone else. That I assume the other person can go for themselves. Being able to take care of himself. Or can ask for help. Or can indicate a boundary. Take them seriously!!! […]

its importance. That you can do that as an adult for your inner Child. now there is finally someone who sees the little boy or girl and wants and can be there for him her.

Any new contact with others in the herd is exciting for my nervous system. It is naturally in the allert mode at such times. It is then important for me to confirm as quickly as possible that it is safe; I must regulate myself with the other person. Co-regulation. We […]

I use my senses mainly to find my way in the outside world.

I use the input to be able to use my brain, with everything I know about that outside world, to form a conceptual, internalized perception of my outside world. To get a sense of security from where. And […]

I am conscious and so there is a separation between body and mind, between body and mind. My thinking took on a life of its own in a conceptual world. a dissociated world. But underneath it all, I am still an animal, with an animal body. With all the trimmings. […]

How realistic is it to always be in the NOW? Don’t we often talk about things that have already happened or things regarding what can still happen , future etc

We use past and future as entertainment so we miss what is happening in and in front of us now.

And yes […]

The nothing music in an elevator is there to make me feel safer. Like certain scents in stores to make calmer and thus more in the mood for buying something. Eating something together should inspire trust, hand on my shoulder or the Clinton handshake are meant to put the other […]

Sensing with mind or body, thinking-feeling, thinking-smelling thinking-tasting, as well as thinking-listening and thinking-looking. Through deterministic filter of security-driven thinking. Everything is labeled in terms of something we already know. We have difficulty perceiving something that has no connection to what we already know. The brain just won’t be able […]

I carry the trauma of things that I once could not process, that I could not give a place in my experiences until then. And that is still with me as undigested food in my intestines. Unspoken, incomplete, unfinished. Which waits to connect with the rest of my experiences. Parents […]

Trauma attachment dissolves in my transformation

Solutions chosen by my survival instinct are the basis of how I connect with others. If I work on my (sometimes unwanted) primary reaction then my connection to others will also change. Logical. One is connected to the other.

Change the world and start with yourself. […]

Always accept what is. Every thought. Any feeling. And then breathe again without (wanting to) hold the thought or feeling beyond this moment. Because then you miss what is felt or thought in the next moment.

Exercise:
BLENDING

Step 1

I ball a fist with my one hand.

I now […]

All humans, read nervous systems, seek safety. Unconsciously, my nervous system seeks co-regulation from other people. They often don’t do that directly, and without knowing it, they cross boundaries, their own boundaries and my boundaries.

Much of our society is focused in a dissociative way on my regulation, services, products, entertainment. […]

Often my mind is already miles ahead of my body. I have already figured out (without feeling deeper) what I am going to do. And without regard for my body I thunder on, facing my burnout with open eyes, for example. Thinking I’m doing good.

But if the feeling arises in […]