Trauma attachment dissolves in my transformation
Solutions chosen by my survival instinct are the basis of how I connect with others. If I work on my (sometimes unwanted) primary reaction then my connection to others will also change. Logical. One is connected to the other.
Change the world and start with yourself. Or rather, start with yourself and the world changes.
If I change, if I engage my process, feel what wants to be felt, things within me dissolve, if my response behavior changes, then my environment no longer “fits. Then the people around me, old friends, my partner, even my parents, no longer fit. This is not necessarily always the case but it certainly can happen. And that is quite normal. I had adapted to a world that was actually wrong. so a recalibration is needed.
So if I change to my authentic self now then the world cannot do anything but go along with the transformation. How interesting! So not the law of attraction. But actually working on my deepest traumas to change the world. Not with a dissociative purpose like wealth or happiness or something else conceived. But just taking on my own shit and then experiencing what the world looks like when I regain my authenticity. What the world is like when I follow what presents itself in the here and now, without the trauma filter of learned responses. Exciting, yes it was. But I do undeniably feel now that I am living, breathing, growing, allowed to be there, that this is my world. Thriving is a nice english word for that. (possibly synonyms, translation)
If I am still living full from my trauma reaction, if I have not yet re-experienced the abandonment pain from my childhood, then the people who give my damaged attachment peace are totally ok.
If I am a round hole then only round cubes fit. But if I become a square hole then only square cubes will fit.
But if I change, if my attachment issues become clear, then the “unattainable man” will no longer be so interesting, then the bully partner will no longer feel so familiar.
(rephrase)
