People living in irrelationship activate behavioral routines learned in childhood that relieved anxiety by making their parents feel better. We made the acronym GRAFTS as a simple tool to help organize our thinking: Good, Right, Absent, Funny, Tense and Smart.
When Things Fall Apart: Tibetan Buddhist Nun and Teacher Pema Chödrön on Transformation Through Difficult Times
“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible […]
"Non-verbal contact communicates warmth and sincerity, giving way to the inexpressible. The physical support supposes a type of love and constitutes a great psychological food, sometimes more effective and motivating than the word "
Having feelings isn't a sign of weakness -- they mean we're human, People diagnosed with anxiety and depression, feel often too ashamed to tell anybody. Many misread depression and anxiety as a weakness and that keeps sufferers from getting help.