We tuck our messy real selves behind polished veneers, orchestrate grand gestures, and perform various psychoemotional acrobatics driven by the illusion that love is something we must earn by what we do, rather than something that comes to us unbidden simply for who we are.
For each of us, there is a public persona encasing the private person, an aspirational self radiating from the real self.
Were we to meet this figure socially, as it were, this accusatory character, this internal critic, we would think there was something wrong with him. He would just be boring and cruel
Denkadviseren is zowel een verrassend, praktisch en inzichtelijk boek als een ode aan de eenvoud, lichtheid en waardigheid van ‘denkadviseren’.
Sulking pays homage to a beautiful, dangerous ideal that can be traced back to our earliest childhoods: the promise of wordless understanding. In the womb, we never had to explain. Our every requirement was catered to. The right sort of comfort simply happened
