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Who am I, or am I a what?

Defense system, security system I call IK, ego.

I am not a permanence. I am a situational response from an algorithm attached to this body.

Everything is reaction to the first primal pain of a life-threatening […]

Am I a bio-computer?

Well, why not. In any case, my BodyMind does resemble a large bio database with operating system. Everything is stored in relevant places and accessible for security operations. My computer’s screen and keys are just as important as everything else that is invisibly […]

Who am I? is an age-old question with no clear answer. Keep it that there are multiple selves competing for attention in any given situation. ‘I’ is first of all a thinking-concept, a thought. Whether there is an objective I has not yet been demonstrated. ‘I’ is […]

There is nothing wrong with you! At most, something about your security system is misaligned. Ever. When there was an important reason to make an adjustment in your perception of what you saw and found an adjusted response to that. That adjustment has brought you safely to this […]

My self is extremely elusive. ‘The illusive mind’

My BodyMind responds to my environment. Automatic and autonomous. That response depends on how safe my social engagement system assesses the situation: safe, unsafe, life-threatening. And I move from moment to moment on that scale of safety. My […]

So what is that, my authentic self? Non-authentic, according to the dictionary, is counterfeit, not real, not original. Authentic is original, real, reliable. For me, to be authentic is to be original, from the origin, from the original impulse without a conditioned response. So acting freely appropriate to […]

For me, the most beautiful interpretation of Tantra is the word “continuity. Without intervention, without barrier fluidity. No plan, no focus, no doing. Following what presents itself from an open free movement.

Tantra in the West is often associated with sexuality. […]

Book Peter Gay. After an introduction and fundamentals, he covers the drives and defense mechanisms of the Victorian Era: eroticism, aggression and fear. The author then descends into the Victorian spirit: religion, labor, taste and privacy.

Especially in the privacy chapter, we see the contours […]

I have 1 deep-seated survival need as a human animal, which is connection to the herd. That is where my bodymind will do everything it can to maintain that connection. Without a connection, I die. Is the ingrained perception of my bodymind system.

Now it may well […]

It may be that you have a trigger on being alone. I have. Then the restlessness comes up and my BodyMind looks for regulation. With me it came in the form of eating, walking around, watching porn, contacting someone for sex, snacking […]

What happened to me in my life is behind me. I have developed behaviors, opinions, experiences because at one time things happened that I had no control over and I was incapable of acting on. Where I felt hehelaaml alone and converted that untenability into appropriate behavior. To […]

Can you be a good mother cq father to yourself?

How would you treat a small child? As a strict master, as a bully, discipline in it drifting, angry, manipulating, negative commenting parent? Or as a lovingly present, nurturing, understanding, attentively listening and sometimes setting boundaries?

John Bowlby’ s (1988) attachment theory describes the way of connection in interpersonal relationships. The type of attachment occurs in early childhood and carries over into adult relationships. As a child, I attach myself to the primary care figure, mother initially and later the father. The manner and […]

For my BodyMind, there are two types of safety. Real security and false security. The difference is the time of measurement. If I measure outside myself then there is a kind of objective perception of safety. An open square on a sunny day seems safer than a dark […]